Among different types of parenting styles, hyper-parenting has become a bigger trend in the past few years as life in general has become more competitive. Hyper-parenting is the result of an educational model that is mainly seen in affluent societies. Parents feel strong pressure to make sure their children are successful in life, so strong that some parents go so far as to reserve a spot in an elite preschool even before the child is born, and just a little later on start to secure a place in an very good colleges and universities. This type of parent often worries about their child’s life when there is actually nothing to worry about.
Parents have the desire and feel to maximize the potential of their children from an early age so that they will not become disappointed in the future. Here and five negative effects of hyper-parenting:
1) Children grow to be socially awkward
Children who have been nurtured by those parents may have low self-confidence, become less independent, give up easily, and feel anxious and scared of their outside world. They may also become socially awkward.
2) Emotionally rigid and difficult to control
Hyper-parenting may cause children to become emotionally rigid and difficult to control. A child who is also burdened with many rules and tasks will have his or her energy drained, which may affect health.
3) Overly obedient and prone to depression
Parents’ habit of directing their children can create youths that are too obedient and thus unable to develop their talents and potential. Many tasks from parents and rules that limit their activity may potentially pressure them and lead to depression.
4) Becoming an easy target for bullying
Children who are not given enough freedom by their parents can become easy targets for bullying, whether at school or in the neighborhood. Bullying happens when a child fails to communicate well with his or her peers. Meanwhile, rules and tasks that are given by [hyper-parenting] parents may preoccupy the child. It slowly pulls the child away from his or her social circle, causing a negative effect on his or her communication with peers.
5) Prone to diseases
Hyper-parenting is also associated with limitations for children in enjoying outdoor activities. Hyper-parented children are often not allowed to play in nature as parents are worried that the place is too dirty. Children who live in a relatively sterile environment are more prone to allergies and asthma.
Parents may think their children need to be healthy, so they overly protect children from dirt, dust and fungi. However, dirt is part of a child’s immune system development. When parents create a sterile environment for children, they may in fact be making the children more susceptible to diseases.
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